Sunday, 16 November 2014

My First Adult Moment In Life

It was long, long back… but it’s still not a blur. I remember everything vividly. The first time I ever felt like an adult was when I missed my train! It was perhaps the first moment in my life when I felt left in the lurch. There was nobody to help me out. I was all alone standing in despair at the New Delhi train station enquiring the policemen about my train.


Let me give you a bit of a background of my ‘first adult moment’ story - I was working in Gurgaon and I was going home to meet my family, who was in Lucknow at that time. The very kind admin staff of my office had arranged a cab for me that dropped me at the station. I knew I was late for my train. I was just hoping to catch the train out of sheer luck, but I managed to reach the station only after the train had departed.

Well, I was disappointed at the highest level, as I was so eager to go home. I didn’t want to waste even a single day out of the days off that were granted to me. I just wanted to go home by any means. I was at no cost ready to leave the station. I quickly enquired about the next available train to Lucknow. (By the way, I had missed an afternoon train)

Somebody at the station advised me to get the ‘missed’ train ticket cancelled before anything else. So I headed to the ticket counter. Now in the midst of all this, I discovered a very valuable quality in me – the spirit of not losing hope so easily. After this incident, I have seen the same quality emerge in me on many challenging occasions. I queued up at the counter with a blazing anticipation of getting reservation in the next train to Lucknow.

To my comfort, I got my ticket cancelled with ease and also got a certain amount of money back. After which I got a seat in one of the late night trains to Lucknow. I don’t remember the name or the exact time of that train, but it was an odd hour train and it was a chair car. So now after I had got my new ticket to Lucknow, I heaved a sigh of relief.


While I was undergoing this situation, I had a feeling of being an adult. Although it was unfortunate to miss a train and then wait for another train for hours, it made me feel good about myself that I could handle so much on my own.

But that was not all. There was something in store for me to help me kill time at the station. I met a somewhat middle-aged man or rather he bumped into me uninvited. I was sitting quietly on a bench just waiting for time to whisk by, and this man came and sat next to me. Well of course, he tried to befriend me. I was barely interested in talking to him, but I had to, because there was no escape. Besides, he was a harmless guy. He asked me all sorts of questions, from ‘whether I was a student or a working girl, where did my father work, where did I stay in Lucknow’ to possibly everything under the sun. Obviously, I didn’t tell him anything about me except my name. I gave him all fake answers. (I just wanted to run away from him)

But, for some people their politeness let them get away with anything. Then he told me that I was like his sister. He tried his level best to assure me that he was a man of good character, someone who had control over his senses. He also wanted to stay in touch with me. He even shared his phone number with me, but thankfully didn’t ask for mine. He very smartly said that once I call him, he would get my number too. I just thought to myself, “Why would I call you?”

Anyway, I couldn’t be happier when I saw my train arrive on the platform. I extended an obligatory goodbye to the old chap and quickly got into my coach. Phew!

What was your ‘first’ adult moment? I would love to hear you out!

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26 comments:

  1. I never thought about 'first' adult moment till-date but I am thinking when was it. Tough to remember. Maybe going to school solo by bicycle the 'first' adult moment.

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    1. Oh, in that case, you grew up pretty early! ;-)

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  2. wow........but i I have not thought about it yet..........

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    1. It's nice to go back to memories and extract out something interesting and worth sharing.

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  3. wow ! thats interesting ! well i hv never thought that way.. "my first adult moment"... liked the title too :-)

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    1. Thanks Bhawna! :-) Yeah, I can clearly say that it was my first adult moment.

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  4. For me it was the moment when my parents and wife along with an uncle and cousin went out for a lunch. It was the moment when my parents did not bothered about the bill and they were happy that their son is giving treat to them :)

    Renuka the similar type of incidence happened to me too, I missed the train from Anand Vihar station and unfortunately it was a train at around 8 PM and I missed the train because of some technical fault at metro, my metro was standing still just before the Anand Vihar station for around 15 minutes and I saw my train's backlight going from there only :)

    Unfortunately there was no train from Anand Vihar to Lucknow and I took a bus, a UP Roadways bus, which took around 16 hours to reach to Lucknow.

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    1. Wow! I loved your acknowledgement of paying for your parents. That is indeed an adult moment. For that matter, I had experienced that even earlier to this train incident, but I chose this one as my adult moment because that's something that made me recognize my own strength and wisdom. Thanks for sharing your train story too!

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  5. don't exactly remember the first adult moment, but there are many i guess :D .

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    1. Yes, there are many for me as well. But I picked this one, because it's more memorable than others.

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  6. Loved this post Renuka! So many emotions in one post! incredible!
    I think as soon as a younger sibling is born, the little one becomes an elder..isn't it? I know I digressed from adult to elder but yes - good to share! :)

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    1. Thanks so much! :-) Yeah, I can understand what you are trying to convey. My whole point of writing this post was to express that there is a time in your life when you recognize your strength and wisdom as an individual and that's when you really become an adult.

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  7. Very interesting post and I like the way you finished in the end, asking readers for their thoughts. :)

    For me, my first adult moment came when I visited USA for 10 days. It was exciting yet very challenging trip as it was my first trip without anyone accompanying me. Getting everything arranged over there (including searching for vegetarian Indian food), surviving on subway burgers (because of scarcity of veggie food in that area), solo trip to Niagara Falls ... all these events in that 10 days trip collectively are considered as my adult moment. Another adult moment include - preparing food for the first time (love that).

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    1. Thanks Vishal! :-) I appreciate your story as well. I can imagine everything - the excitement of taking that trip abroad, traveling solo to a new destination, adjusting to new atmosphere... I am sure the experience must have taught you a lot!

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  8. I've never thought about this before Renuka, I don't know when I felt like an adult for the very first time.. not sure. I always think I grew up way too quickly but I can't recall a particular moment that marked the passage to my adult life.

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    1. I can understand what you are saying. In my case too, my siblings and I grew up pretty early. But what I meant was one moment when you got to recognize your strength the most.

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  9. Hmmm interesting thought! My first adult moment while travelling was when I lost my bank card in Damascus in 2004 (I'm still not certain that it wasn't stolen).

    I thought my world was going to end - and it's funny how the next morning I thought "I have to deal with this - I will march on!" - and I did! The rest of the holiday was a blast, without the bank card!!

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    1. Yours is an interesting story too! Losing something important and then the state of panic to recovering from the shock and moving on is adventurous and fun!

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  10. An interesting account. :) I suppose mine was when I visited Japan alone at 19 - my first solo international trip. That was when I realized how supremely convenient it is to let mom take care of everything, and how daunting some things are when you have to manage them on your own! I actually remember saying that to mom the first time I called her from there. :)

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    1. Japan at 19! Wow! That sounds incredible. :-) Yes, it's when we accomplish something on our own, we realize our individual identity and strength. Thanks Ami :-)

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  11. Waow! It's so good to think about things that we have nearly forgotten to think about. Thanks Renuka, you made me go through my memories flashback. My first adult moment was when i started working and earning my pocket money myself. I started treating my parents and brother with surprises that i got for them with my hard earned money :)

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    1. That's great! :-) To think that way, my adult life had already started as I was working in Gurgaon and staying away from home. But, I chose this particular incident as my first adult moment, because it got me deal with a difficult situation on my own.

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  12. Sorry for the delay, I got connected to your post today thru Shooting star today and found it really fascinating. I remembered my first adult moment when I went to take a bus ride from Mumbai to Ahmedabad, and there were no seats left except the 'cabin' seat, I readily jumped for it as I had a NID interview scheduled the next morning and cabin seats definitely sounded pretty relaxing. Well it was really amusing when I had to sit cramped with 10 other extremely talkative and enthusiastic guys in the drivers area which was around 6'x6'. How I sat in the extremely small space was shocking but the challenging part was listening to the perky guys going on for the 10 hours in the night. Being an Adult really sucks.

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    1. Haha! Such things do happen while you travel. It's okay! :-)

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