Sunday, 11 January 2015

‘Solo Travel’ vs. ‘Family Holiday’

On my recent trip to Goa, I realized that family travel is wonderful, but solo travel is better on any given day! For the past few years, I have travelled alone so much that travelling with people sounds like an uninviting idea to me. I mean I can travel with people, but with only those who are like me – who are as curious as me, who like adventure, who have tons of patience to get a photograph right, who can wander without an aim and who have a sense of wonder for ordinary things of the destination in question.

If you are laid-back, get tired too soon and don’t care to explore something different, I really don’t want to travel with you! But, don’t get me wrong! I am not judgemental about those who are unlike me – those who have different ways of travelling than mine. So, coming to my family, I’d say I have the most supportive people behind me. I can’t thank them enough for being there for me always.


Soaking in the 'beach' buzz at Sinquerim Beach, Goa

The ‘guilty’ conscience creeps in

But, I feel guilty when I travel with my family, because they care for my interests so much that they seem to just wait while I do my own thing. For instance, they didn’t quite enjoy lingering around in Fontainhas, an old Latin Quarter of Goa, but they still let me wander around and take photographs. Although they didn’t show even a hint of boredom, I felt guilty within me that they were not enjoying. My attitude and feelings reflected in my photographs, too. I didn't take the kind of photos that I could have. I'm sure I would have done a better job had I been alone and without a streak of worry at the back of my mind that someone was waiting for me.

Left - My family waits as I take photographs at Fontainhas. 

It’s hard to avoid the ‘blame’ game

No matter how cooperative you try to be, conflicts do arise at some point or the other. In my case, I like to be spontaneous with places that I visit. I don’t let disappointment weigh me down. If I don’t like a particular spot or place, I simply come back. But when you travel with your family, the ‘blame’ game does come into the picture once in a while. For instance, you suggest a place that you read or heard about somewhere, which turns out to be sordid, get ready to listen to a few grumbling remarks. I’m sure you are nodding in agreement.

A glimpse of South Goa countryside

You can never have enough time

Everything is time bound with family. I have to tell you this - On my insistence, we visited Loutolim Village in South Goa, which was nothing out of the ordinary. But I am sure there are lots of beautiful places in South Goa, which probably are farther than where we went. Had I been alone, I would have taken the trouble to travel as far as I could and discovered something worth writing home about.  

It was both ‘family’ and ‘solo’ travel for me

It was a dual trip for me, where I savoured the family togetherness and also did a few things alone. But I am not complaining about that! I absolutely LOVED both the experiences!  

Things I enjoyed with my family –
- Relaxing on the beaches
- Dining out
- Barbecue in our apartment balcony

Having breakfast at Verendah Restaurant, Panjim City
Happy times! :-)
Dinner at Living Room, North Goa
Barbecue - The most fun part of our stay in Goa

Things I enjoyed solo –
- Evening and morning strolls along the Goan homes in Saligao
- Chatting with locals
- Visiting the local bakery of Saligao
- Visiting the art gallery in Panjim City

My morning walk in Saligao
Chasing the sunset alone...

Family travel is refreshing, but solo travel is enriching

I wouldn’t be wrong if I said that I was split between my family and myself. I’d say that family travel is necessary. It’s a great way of refreshing your relationships. There are a lot of moments of laughter, warmth, silliness and fun. On the other hand, solo travel is introspective and a genuine rendezvous with a place.

I think I’d like to conclude by saying that you can take a ‘holiday’ with your family and ‘travel’ on your own.

What do you think? Do you also think that SOLO TRAVEL is better any day?

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35 comments:

  1. Love that countryside view of South Goa.

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    1. Yeah, right! I wish I could explore it more, though.

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  2. solo travel is great because then you only answer to yourself. you make the decisions solely on how YOU feel and you (probably) dont bore anyone else etc. or if you feel tired at 7pm you can go to bed. or stay up all night. sleep in, get up early. setting your own schedule is one thing that is so liberating about travelling solo!

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    1. Absolutely! Solo travel is the best way to travel. Thanks Andrew for your comment.

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  3. I've barely done any solo travel but I have to agree with you that it's so much more fun to take photographs when you're on your own! I find when I'm alone I can take my time, photograph everything and move at my own pace. When I'm traveling with my boyfriend I always feel rushed and there are a lot of times I haven't taken photos because I feel like I'm annoying him too much. There are perks to both solo and non-solo travel but I feel you on that one!

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    1. Right! For a serious photographer, solo travel is a better option any day! As you said, you can move at your own pace and take time to plan your photographs. I hate feeling rushed, but what to do...if you are traveling with family, you can't bore them much.

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  4. ..wonderful blog..loved it.. :)

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  5. Great pics Renuka. I loved the experience the last time I was in goa. We got to explore a few of these unadulterated beaches, I guess near Anjum beach. It was quite splendid going there. I am in complete support to the solo travel idea.

    A book in hand and maybe some distant music and the peace and calm of exploring a new place - a Great mix indeed :)..

    Happy new year btw. Wishing you more and brighter opportunities to travel around :)

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  6. Another solo vs group traveling. :)
    I would say both have their own advantages & disadvantages. I prefer and travel solo of 85-90% of my trips.

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  7. I love solo travel as well, because as a photographer, it gives you the maximum freedom to indulge yourself in your passion :)

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    1. True! I think serious photography can never be blended with family holidays.

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  8. If I travel solo, who will carry my backpack? :) But seriously speaking, I enjoy all sorts of traveling: solo, with friends, with my husband, with my kids. The success of a journey depends on many factors.

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    1. Traveling with companions has its own benefits. But I find solo travel more enriching and rewarding as a traveler.

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  9. Beautiful write up. What a lovely sunset image at the end.

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  10. An interesting take on travelling - solo v/s family... and very true, both have their fun times.

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    1. I'm glad you enjoyed the post, Nimi! :-) Thanks!

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  11. Family travel can be a lot of fun, but I usually do travel for myself and my own experiences, and for that, I need to travel alone! Sorry mum and dad!

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    1. Haha! :-) I couldn't agree more with you, Tim!

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  12. It is quite tough balancing both. :). I would any day prefer solo travelling.

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    1. Right! Solo travel gives you freedom to travel the way you like.

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  13. Renuka i have never heard anyone claim this but i think you have a point here.Very well said.

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    1. Thanks Indu! I hope you got my point.

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  14. Family travel is refreshing, but solo travel is enriching. This is the hallmark of the whole post. Well said Renuka.

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    1. Thanks Fayaz! :-) Both have their own plus points!

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  15. Both have their pluses and minuses! I love that photo of the setting sun behind the silhouette of the plant - beautiful!

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    1. Yes, both have their pluses and minuses. Thanks so much, Suzanne! :-)

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  16. Your pictures make me want to visit Goa (which was never on my wish list until now)!
    Recently we do more family travel so I pretty much don't have any time for decent pictures and I am always in a hurry.
    "Solo travel" for me is my husband and I (without our daughter) - so I can at least have some more time for pictures. :)

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    1. Yes, I can understand what you are saying! :-) Goa is certainly a great place for solo travelers and photographers.

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  17. I definitely prefer to travel solo and I guess family holidays are not for me, unfortunately. However, I did enjoy travelling with my mom last summer!! :)

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    1. Same here, Agness. :-) I think family holidays are the thing of the past for me. Ever since I have started traveling solo, my style of travel has changed a lot.

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  18. I think both travels are best idea because we enjoy in both !
    I am going trip to rajasthan

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